FRACTURE

I’m not in the mood to write anything. But I also have nothing to do right now. So I decided I could give some advice to whoever is reading this—though I have no idea if anyone will read my writings.

1. Smile at the smallest things—even if it’s just a single drop of water falling from the tip of a leaf, or a turtle walking towards the sea like a baby crawling towards its mother, or a cat staring at you after getting scared by the little vibration of your movement, or a flower dancing with the rhythmic morning breeze—just smile, because smile is the greatest weapon of all.
2. Be grateful for every moment in your life—the sun’s rising up in the morning with the greatest beauty, the cold night which you got a chance to enjoy, or even the moment when you get demoted, when someone you love leaves you forever, when you’re not succeeding even after hundreds of different efforts—thank everything, because it’s a part of the journey.
3. Try to stay healthy—both physically and mentally. Don’t let some stupid people break you down and make you a controllable toy in their hands. And most importantly, don’t be afraid of people talking behind your back—because they know nothing about you as much as you know about yourself.
4. Don’t try to be at the top, define a “top” for yourself and go for it. By copying someone else, you can never reach the peak. Because whatever you do, there will always be someone better than you. So, try to be the best in your own way.

5. Stop pointing out other’s mistakes—you aren’t correct every time as well. Humans make mistakes—it’s not a problem, it’s an advantage. Making mistakes is a natural phenomenon that helps us cope with the surroundings and learn something new everyday.

   You only have the right to judge someone for their mistakes if you never make mistakes yourself—else it’s an idiocy. This is like scolding a baby for falling down while walking for the first time. You fell down too, unless your parents were always there waiting to save you—but you still felt that instability in your legs, and a single wrong move would make you fall down on your face.

6. Never talk negative things about someone’s character in their absence. Because what you say about them in their absence may not be true, or it can be a rumor—you never know. Even if you do know that someone made a mistake or did something wrong, don’t make a new mistake by telling it to other people—unless it’s absolutely serious for the whole community.

7. Don’t compare your kids with others. This is the most irrelevant action that a parent can perform. Comparing your kids with others makes them feel ignored, unsecured, and it gradually increases the distance between the kid and the parents.

   Try to be as close to your kids as possible. Even if they don’t stay with you forever, leave you in your distress, you can still say that you never left your responsibilities. But when you leave, you can leave this world with some of those cute memories you had with them.

8. Never misbehave with someone for their little mistakes that could easily be forgiven. I’ve seen this happening mostly between couples. The husband is tend to get mad at his wife, who he claimed to be the other half of his life, even at some negligible events—like accidentally putting a little more salt in the food, unintentionally spilling water or coffee on his expensive suit before meeting, wanting to go to her dad’s house to see the family she spent her whole life with, and not knowing how to cook well, clean well, dress well, etc.

   You, as a man, should be patient enough to forgive your wife even if she leaves you one day. Forgiveness is the smartest revenge. Everybody deserves a second chance, and your behaviour is what defines you.

9. Listen more than you speak. Everyone has a story you might never understand. The person smiling in front of you may be fighting a war inside that no one can see. Sometimes, people don’t need your advice, your judgment, or your interruption—they just need your patience and your silence.

   If you listen carefully enough, you’ll realize that every human heart carries a weight, and kindness becomes much easier when you remember that.

10. Spend time with yourself—truly. Know your thoughts, fears, and desires. The clearer you know yourself, the easier it is to live honestly. If you don’t understand your own heart, the world will define you in ways that were never meant for you.

    Sit with your silence sometimes, because not every answer comes from noise. The more familiar you become with your own soul, the less likely you are to lose yourself trying to please everyone else.

11. Laugh at yourself often. Life is too short to take your ego seriously. Not every mistake has to become a wound to your pride, and not every awkward moment deserves a lifelong place in your memory.

    Sometimes, the best thing you can do is smile at your own foolishness and move on. A person who can laugh at himself is harder to break, because he has already made peace with being imperfect.